WALK THROUGH

A guide for seeing a companion.
Outlines of the perfect interactions, from initial correspondence, to the end of our encounter.

So you're new to the world of professional companionship, or maybe just want to up your game on first impressions with a new provider. Here is an outline on what you should both expect, and try to follow for smooth interactions. 


 

 INITIAL CORRESPONDENCE

 

You've just hit the submit button to inquire to a new companion, after reading their website/ad. You're so excited that you can barely wait.

 

But, please, do.

 

Be patient, and wait for the provider to reach out to you next. Don't spam them with calls, emails or texts. Sifting through multiple inquiries and screening information can take time. Not to mention, other responsibilities that the provider may need to devote their time to. I for one, work another non-companion related job, and don't always check my emails while I'm there. Other providers may be students, parents, or simply be busy at the time of your inquiry.

If your request is time sensitive, or you didn't hear back in a promised or respectable time frame, sending out one more text or email may be acceptable but is dependant on each individual provider. The best way to get a prompt response, is to follow the instructions to contact the provider properly, and be patient and respectful while you wait.


 CONFLICTIONS

Whenever you inquire to a companion, there is always a possibility they may not be able to meet you. Sending an inquiry, even if you've followed all the steps ≠ a date.

This could be as easy as a scheduling conflict, or more serious such as compatibility issues. 

Ask for clarification. You may need to reschedule at a better time that works for both of you, or find another provider that better suits your needs. Do not put pressure on the companion if they are unable to give you what you want.

 

GOOD TO GO
 

There are no more snags, and everything is set. Your meeting with your companion is made. This is the time that you should receive more information on your set date and speak now if you have any other questions that weren't answered.

Let's go through our checklist:


- you know what time you're meeting
- you know how long you're meeting

- you know the proper donation amount
- you know approximately the location of your meeting / or have given the provider a location where you will be meeting
- you know how to contact the provider if things change
- you have a general idea of what to expect

Now you can sit back and relax. No really, just chill. You don't need to check in every day, or ask how our day is going. As unsexy as scheduling a doctor's appointment is, the similarities are often uncanny. We are both professionals that do not want to see "what are you wearing" texts at 3am.


THE DAY OF
 

The day has arrived. Hot dog. Now is the time to be excited.

Every provider is different, but typically most will want you to confirm in the morning before your appointment in a timely manner. Meaning, don't text "I'm here" 15 minutes before your date without confirming beforehand, or go radio silent and expect them to magically appear at your place without instructions. This is the time where a companion will give you an address to a meeting location, and the time where you should give your meeting location to your companion if you haven't already.

Most companions, myself included, will not disclose the exact address of our location until the meeting day. This is a safety precaution and is not a reflection on you, personally. 

Plan your route. Ask if there's parking, or a subway/bus station if you take transit. Don't wait until the last minute to put in the location into the GPS and find it's going to be a 20 minute walk instead of a 10 minute walk.



YOU MADE IT

You're almost at the promised land. You should aim to arrive 5-10 minutes early, to accommodate for any time spent trying to catch an elevator or playing phone tag with a buzzer.

It's important to remember that the start of your date, is your scheduled time. If you are late, or early, this normally doesn't change. Arriving 15 minutes early will not make your time 15 minutes longer. Arriving 15 minutes late will not extend it. If you planned a 1 hour date, you will unsurprisingly be there for 1 hour, from when your date was planned.

If you've gotten too excited and arrived more than 10 minutes early, do not loiter around the meeting location. Relax in your car, a coffee shop, or stare at your phone elsewhere. There's nothing security and ring alarms hate more than people standing about with no business inside the building.


Instructions are important, so make sure to follow the ones your provider has given you to enter the building. You are still a guest, and need to either buzz in or enter the same way as other guests of the building. This is extended to when you arrive at the unit or door of your meeting space. Some providers will want you to knock, others will want you to text them. Please always read and follow entry instructions properly, and never invite yourself into the space uninvited, such as opening the door unannounced. 

If your provider is coming to you, extend the same courtesy. Nothing is a bigger buzzkill than trying to navigate a maze to get to your date. Let them know any quirks your building has; such as a weird side entrance that doesn't work, or an elevator that may require a key fob.

FIRST MEETING

You're in the home stretch now. U